Thanks alot, for some reason my keyids were different.   It's strange because I connected using the openssl s_server and s_client modes
with the same key/certs and it connects.   I was using the the scripts from a walkthrough to generate my CA and certs and key from  I must of done some setup wrong or something for that script to not work, although the walkthrough
did try to set a slave ldap server also, and I currently don't have one.  Anyways used the script that came with openssl and that worked.

Thanks again,